Getting The Love You Want

When we fall in love, it’s supposed to be forever. We meet the person of our dreams and a magical transformation takes place within us. We feel alive, whole, connected to the world and the people in it. Before we know it, that magical feeling disappears. Disillusioned, our dreams shattered, we begin to feel angry and betrayed.
We try to coerce our partners into giving us what we need. We criticize, we withdraw, we shame, we intimidate, we cry. Some of us go on locked in this painful power struggle for years until we either break up or seek help, desperate to regain the magic we once had.

Imago was created by Dr. Harville Hendrix and is outlined in his book for couples, Getting the Love You Want, and his book for singles, Keeping the Love You Find. Imago is effective as a way to create stronger relationships, because it helps us become more aware of the way that we are all deeply interconnected. It offers insights into the unconscious agenda we bring to our relationships. With this information, we can begin to co-operate with this hidden agenda. As a result, we can choose to grow together in a creative, non-controlling, and healing way that creates understanding and connection.

When we remain unaware of the hidden agenda of romantic love, we keep repeating the same mistakes. We need to understand that conflict is actually growth trying to happen. By resolving our problems through the Imago Dialogue, the emotional bond initially created by romantic love evolves into a powerful healing bond that is real love. Imago Therapy creates a sacred space for healing and growth that can lead to the relationship of your dreams.