Addicted to Love

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Approval addiction
An approval addict is someone that is constantly looking to receive approval or love from others in order to be happy. These people may be completely dependent on what other people, such as friends or loved ones or even strangers, have to say about them. Living a life that is so dependent on others is very restricting, and often this type of addiction is the root to many other problems in relationships.
In many cases, approval addiction is unfortunately a result of drug or alcohol addiction. Children that grow up in the home of an alcoholic or drug addict may develop an unhealthy desire to please others and avoid confrontation at all costs. Usually children of addicts actually learn to cover up their family secrets and sometimes are the responsible ones that have to take care of parents or other siblings. These individuals also grow up starved for love and attention. Kids that grow up in dysfunctional families will often end up being in a dysfunctional relationship as adults. An insecure person will continue to look for approval from others and their happiness is based on other people’s opinion.

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U.S. librarian questions origin of Serenity Prayer

By Michelle Nichols
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Alcoholics Anonymous has used the serenity prayer in its program around the world for many decades. The prayer is “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
In the January, 1950 edition of Alcoholics Anonymous magazine The Grapevine, Niebuhr said of the prayer: “Of course, it may have been spooking around for years, even centuries, but I don't think so. I honestly do believe that I wrote it myself.”

“Reinhold Niebuhr was a very honest person and he was modest,” Shapiro said. “He didn't appear to claim anything that wasn't truthful, so I believe that he probably unconsciously picked the Serenity Prayer, he heard it, or read it somewhere and forgot that he had seen it or read it somewhere.”

He likened the prayer to a proverb, “often used for a long time before anyone writes them down.” But as for who came up with the Serenity Prayer, he says: “That's the big mystery.”

Getting The Love You Want

When we fall in love, it’s supposed to be forever. We meet the person of our dreams and a magical transformation takes place within us. We feel alive, whole, connected to the world and the people in it. Before we know it, that magical feeling disappears. Disillusioned, our dreams shattered, we begin to feel angry and betrayed.
We try to coerce our partners into giving us what we need. We criticize, we withdraw, we shame, we intimidate, we cry. Some of us go on locked in this painful power struggle for years until we either break up or seek help, desperate to regain the magic we once had.

Imago was created by Dr. Harville Hendrix and is outlined in his book for couples, Getting the Love You Want, and his book for singles, Keeping the Love You Find. Imago is effective as a way to create stronger relationships, because it helps us become more aware of the way that we are all deeply interconnected. It offers insights into the unconscious agenda we bring to our relationships. With this information, we can begin to co-operate with this hidden agenda. As a result, we can choose to grow together in a creative, non-controlling, and healing way that creates understanding and connection.

When we remain unaware of the hidden agenda of romantic love, we keep repeating the same mistakes. We need to understand that conflict is actually growth trying to happen. By resolving our problems through the Imago Dialogue, the emotional bond initially created by romantic love evolves into a powerful healing bond that is real love. Imago Therapy creates a sacred space for healing and growth that can lead to the relationship of your dreams.

Internet Addiction

Internet Addiction

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These days, there is little that can’t be done simply by turning on your computer and clicking on the internet button. Just like years ago when everyone in the country slowly added tv sets to their homes, today home by home is joining the internet age. Those that have been online for years now have learned that endless sources of information and entertainment can be gathered simply by checking out the internet. But with all that power right at our fingertips, the internet has become a sad addiction to many. For the complete article by Jared,click on the title above.

Improve Our Conscious Contact: Carol Ann Preston ~ Pause

Carol Ann Preston ~ Pause
Pause,
when agitated or doubtful….

Discipline is something, or my perceived understanding of this word was formerly something I avoided with great effort. Especially as it related to my spiritual life. I believed discipline was about control, rigidity that could only lead to guilt or an over the top perception of one’s self. Why then does Alcoholics Anonymous tell us that alcoholics are undisciplined, and that the first 11 steps is to create and support an effort to develop and grow into a disciplined spiritual life? And what does discipline have to do with the topic of this month, ‘Pause, when agitated or doubtful” from step 11? A simple answer to the latter is to ‘pause’ is one aspect of practicing spiritual discipline in our newfound spiritual lives. This is not an easy task, and I thought is might be a bit helpful if I looked briefly at the one thing that has always ignited the shadow of my soul with rebellion. And that one thing that I found is my misunderstanding of the word and the practice of discipline. Once I was able to move past these old ideas, I found my effort to practice this one spiritual principle within my daily affairs much easier.

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Sexual Addiction in Women: Causes, Signs and Recovery

When a woman finds herself in the middle of a sexual addiction, writes Cheryl Williams, she will have moments of overwhelming shame and hopelessness. Her shame often keeps her from seeking the help that she needs. It is much easier to confess to one's family a food or alcohol addiction than it is a sexual addiction. Sexual addiction isolates the addict and could result in infidelity and betrayal on a very personal level.

Because of the difficulty in coming clean to family members in regard to sexual addiction, a woman often finds herself all alone living in the shadow of her secret addiction, and missing out on the family support she so needs for recovery.

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