Sunday, June 20, 2010

Empathy


The author of Getting The Love You Want and Imago Pioneer Dr. Harville Hendrix just gifted us another beautiful blog on Empathy. In this amazing essay, Hendrixs suggests that "Since empathy is our felt sense of connection to everyone and everything everywhere,when it is intact, everything and everyone is safe.
When it is not, we cannot feel the otherness of others. Then everything and everyone everywhere is an object,and we can harm them without remorse,not knowing that we are harming ourselves."

I have been blessed to study with Dr. Hendrix and use his powerful teachings and tools in my work and life.I urge you to check out this blog...

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Trauma Resolution For Couples Impacted By Sex Addiction


The Institute for Sexual Health (ISH) approaches the psychological treatment of partners and spouses utilizing the Sex Addiction Trauma Model developed by Dr. Omar Minwalla, Silvia Jason, MFT, CSAT and Dr. Barbara Steffens. The Trauma Model recognizes and addresses the initial and ongoing trauma symptoms experienced by partners and spouses of sex addicts.

As a key component of The Partner and Spouse Program, The Trauma Model Workshop offers participants a unique opportunity to identify, share and process the impact of their partner’s sex addiction on their lives, which serves as a therapeutic and educational foundation for relational healing. However, while awareness is a crucial step in healing, it does not necessarily resolve trauma.


Check it out... I highly recommend it.

Saturday, October 10, 2009

Imago Therapy Can Help





In order for people to grow and change, Some conflict is inevitable. With the tools Imago Therapy provides, you can learn to welcome growth and change, and respectful conflict, because you get to fall in love all over again with your partner.


Imago Relationship Therapy provides all the tools necessary for transforming relationships, and it offers important, immediate relief.

When we remain unaware of the hidden agenda of love, we continue to repeat our mistakes. Imago teaches us that conflict is actually growth trying to happen. By resolving our problems through Imago Intentional Dialogue and other Imago techniques, the emotional bond initially created by romantic love can evolve into the powerful bond that is true lasting love.

Once we learn to feel emotionally safe with each other, we can grow and become truly authentic with ourselves and with each other. That's when we fall in love again with who our partner really is...And we are loved for who we are. Until...life being life...we grow and change again.

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Treatment for Eating Disorders


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Eating disorders are very much like substance abuse. Some individuals even suffer from both diseases at the same time. The substance of choice, whether it is food or drugs, is used by the person to try to control things in their life, or to block their emotional pain or emptiness. Eating disorders can affect nearly every demographic of people. It is commonly seen in young teenage girls, but it is also finding its way into the lives of older women and men as well.

Eating disorders are very serious and can cause both physical and psychological damage. Treatment is necessary in many cases when the condition has become out of control. Individuals suffering from an eating disorder may either be diagnosed with anorexia, starving oneself, bulimia, cycling between binge eating and purging, or with binge eating disorder, compulsively overeating.

Getting Help

The first step to helping a loved one with an eating disorder is to talk to the person. They can’t be forced into treatment, but if they know they have family or friends behind them that care about them, it will be easier for them to seek treatment. Eating disorders will usually get worse without treatment, and early intervention will make the road to recovery easier, so it is important to get help as soon as a disorder is detected.

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Underage and Teenager Alcohol Consumption




More than 40 percent of the nation’s estimated 10.8 million underage current drinkers (persons aged 12 to 20 who drank in the past 30 days) were provided free alcohol by adults 21 or older, according to a nationwide report by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. The study also indicates that one in 16 underage drinkers (6.4 percent or 650,000) was given alcoholic beverages by their parents in the past month.

“In far too many instances parents directly enable their children’s underage drinking – in essence encouraging them to risk their health and wellbeing,” said Acting Surgeon General Steven K. Galson, M.D., M.P.H, a rear admiral in the U.S. Public Health Service. “Proper parental guidance alone may not be the complete solution to this devastating public health problem – but it is a critical part.”

The report is based on a nationwide study which for the first time asked detailed questions about the behavior and social situations involved in underage drinking – a problem responsible for the deaths of more than 5,000 people under the age of 21 every year in the United States. The survey asked persons aged 12 to 20 about the nature and scope of their drinking behavior as well as the social conditions under which they drank.

“This report provides unprecedented insight into the social context of this public health problem and shows that it cuts across many different parts of our community,” said SAMHSA Administrator Terry Cline, Ph.D. “Its findings strongly indicate that parents and other adults can play an important role in helping influence – for better or for worse -- young people’s behavior with regard to underage drinking.”

Among the report’s more notable findings:

More than half (53.9) of all people aged 12 to 20 engaged in underage drinking in their lifetime, ranging from 11.0 percent of 12 year olds to 85.5 percent of 20 year olds.

An average of 3.5 million people aged 12 to 20 each year (9.4 percent) meet the diagnostic criteria for having an alcohol use disorder (dependence or abuse).

About one in five people in this age group (7.2 million people) have engaged in binge drinking – consuming five or more drinks on at least one occasion in the past month.

The vast majority of current underage drinkers (80.9 percent) reported being with two or more people the last time they drank. Those who were with two or more people consumed an average of 4.9 drinks on that occasion, compared with 3.1 drinks for those who were with one other person and 2.9 drinks for those who were alone.

Among youths aged 12 to 14 the rate of current drinking was higher for females (7.7 percent) than males (6.3 percent), about equal for females and males among those aged 15 to 17 (27.6 and 27.3 percent, respectively), and lower for females than males among those aged 18 to 20 (47.9 vs. 54.4 percent).

Over half (53.4 percent) of underage current alcohol users were at someone else’s home when they had their last drink, and 30.3 percent were in their own home; 9.4 percent were at a restaurant, bar or club.

Rates of binge drinking are significantly higher among young people living with a parent who engaged in binge drinking within the past year.

The findings from this study are being incorporated into the Underage Drinking Prevention campaign, an ongoing public outreach effort by the Office of the Surgeon General, SAMHSA and the Ad Council encouraging parents to speak with their children early and often about the negative effects of underage drinking. The campaign provides parents with valuable information about the problem of underage drinking as well as tips for how to talk to their children about it. Further information about the campaign can be obtained at: www.stopalcoholabuse.gov .

source: S.A.M.H.S.A, Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration

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Monday, June 29, 2009

Drunk Driving Safer than Driving and Texting



Its official... believe it or not drunk driving is much safer than texting driving... the habit of texting while driving. So all of you texters out there this study is for you.
Recently Car And Driver magazine ran tests at two different speeds, 35 miles per hour and 75 mph, with two different subjects, a 22-year-old intern and the 37-year-old editor-in-chief. Then, the test measured the amount of time it took subjects to stop when prompted by a set of LEDs (mounted on the windshield). This was meant to simulate break lights on a car ahead of the subjects. Using that as a baseline, Car And Driver measured how much longer it took the intern and the editor to stop when reading a text, writing a text, and drunk.

The intern took an extra seven feet to stop at 35 mph, and 15 extra feet at 75 mph while intoxicated. But those numbers doubled when texting -- an extra 31 feet were needed while texting at 75 mph. Wow.

The older editor-in-chief did even worse. He took an extra 319 feet to stop while texting at 75 Mph, but only 17 more while three sheets to the wind. bottom line... don't text and drive!

Adopted from Switched by Terrence O'Brien

Saturday, June 27, 2009

An Altar in the World


From simple practices such as walking, working, and getting lost to deep meditations on topics like prayer and pronouncing blessings, Taylor reveals concrete ways to discover the sacred in the small things we do and see. Something as ordinary as hanging clothes on a clothesline becomes an act of devotion if we pay attention to what we are doing and take time to attend to the sights, smells, and sounds around us. Making eye contact with the cashier at the grocery store becomes a moment of true human connection. Allowing yourself to get lost leads to new discoveries. Under Taylor's expert guidance, we come to question conventional distinctions between the sacred and the secular, learning that no physical act is too earthbound or too humble to become a path to the divine. As we incorporate these practices into our daily lives, we begin to discover altars everywhere we go, in nearly everything we do.